Resisting the Gaslighting Technique

Gaslighting - What It Looks Like

Gaslighting is when you are told something you have seen or heard was different than what you perceived. It comes out in comments like, “I never said that,” and “That never happened,” and “You never called me,” - when you know it isn’t true. What happens next is a discussion about your perceptions which you will never win. Think “are you going to believe me or your lying eyes?”

The goal of gaslighting isn’t to convince you. It is to get you doubting your own experiences and thoughts. As soon as you engage, you lose.

Resisting the Gaslight Technique

Don’t engage in the debate over whether what you have seen or heard is real. It is real. If you actually heard something, then you heard it. It shouldn’t be a topic for debate, as if there is another side. There is no other side.

Stop the conversation right there. Don’t feed the crazy. Don’t open the door to doubting of your senses. If someone tells you that what you heard is wrong, or you didn’t see …